Raise Son's Not Gun's

Once a man becomes a father his number one priority should be just that.  Unfortunately this is not the case.  This from fatherhood.org 

There is a father absence crisis in America. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children, more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. Consequently, there is a father factor in nearly all social ills facing America today.  






From Fightingdads.com

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.  (Center for Disease Control)
  • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average.  (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average.  (National Principals Association Report)
  • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average. (Rainbows for all God’s Children)
  • 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average.  (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)
  • 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.  (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)

Fatherless boys and girls are twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March 26, 1999]

57.6% of black children, 31.2% of Hispanic children, and 20.7% of white children are living absent their biological fathers.
Source: Family Structure and Children’s Living Arrangements 2012. Current Population Report. U.S.  Census Bureau July 1, 2012.

From Afro.com 74.3 percent of all White children below the age of 18 live with both parents, only 38.7 percent of African-American minors can say the same.

All of these facts are eye opening but 4x the risk of poverty may be the biggest concern because research shows that poor people commit the most violent crime: According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, during the period from 2008 through 2012, “persons in poor households at or below the federal poverty level (FPL) (39.8 per 1,000) had more than double the rate of violent victimization as persons in high-income households (16.9 per 1,000) ... The overall pattern of poor persons having the highest rates of violent victimization was consistent for both whites and blacks.  

The reason for the name Raise Son's and Not Gun's can be summed up by a study done by the Violence Policy Center which concluded: Blacks in the United States are disproportionately affected by homicide. For the year 2014, blacks represented 13 percent of the nation’s population, yet accounted for 50 percent of all homicide victims.  The devastation homicide inflicts on black teens and adults is a national crisis that should be a top priority for policymakers to address. An important part of ending our nation’s gun violence epidemic will involve reducing homicides in the African-American community. For black victims of homicide, like all victims of homicide, guns — usually handguns — are far and away the number-one murder tool. Successful efforts to reduce America’s black homicide toll, like America’s homicide toll as a whole, must put a focus on reducing access and exposure to firearms.

According to the US Department of Justice, The offending rate for African Americans was almost 8 times higher than European Americans, and the victim rate 6 times higher. Most homicides were intraracial, with 84% of European Americans victims killed by European Americans, and 93% of African Americans victims were killed by African Americans.

As mentioned earlier poverty causes violent crimes like murder to double regardless of ethnicity.  The systemic racism problem of course contributes to more poverty among African Americans which could explain the higher murder rates.  The argument can be made for many different reasons.  But the answer is clearly the choice to make it a priority to raise your son and a priority not to raise your gun and this is what we hope to help instill.

We hope to instill the Love Unity Equality Culture to children.  To choose love not hate and that there is power in unity and when people who love come together in unity anything can happen including equality.   


  1. Teaching them to love themselves and others.  Remembering and  living Muhammad Ali's quote. "Hating people because of their color is wrong. And it doesn't matter which color does the hating. It's just plain wrong."  And MLK's quote "Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that."
  2. Reconciling  children with their fathers or identifying a positive male role model in their life to have a healthy relationship with.
  3. Give children a mentor who takes a personal interest in each. 

Boys-Teaching them what it truly takes to become a man and the obligations that go along with it.  Taking care of his responsibilities no matter how big or small.  Nothing ever being more important than being a loving and responsible father to their children when that time comes. Teaching that they should wait until they are fully prepared to be a father before becoming one.  Reminding of the statistics above when children are fatherless.  Instilling the fact that our teens will not allow these terrible things to happen to them or to others as they will choose to love their brother and not hate him.  Always remembering our slogan to “Raise Your Son and Not Your Gun.”

Girls-Teaching them to set goals and go after the things they truly desire in life.  How unwanted and unplanned teen age pregnancy not only can have a lasting negative impact on her goals but also on society allowing the cycle of absent fathers to repeat.


A part of our culture is teaching and knowing that there is power in unity and we have true unity when we begin to see all of us as all one all Americans who are all equal.  Although one of Love Unity Equality’s main focus is to address the inequality faced by African Americans or so called people of color.  We understand that only when people of different skin colors, ethnic and economic backgrounds come together in love do we begin to see this true unity that leads to equality.  Hence we encourage a diverse group of teens to get involved in our program and learn to start working together in unity creating friendships and learning about each other’s cultures realizing we all have the same wants needs and desires including being treated equally and having equal rights.  Creating future generations with more Love Unity and Equality.  


We teach our teens that the world isn’t always fair but that hasn’t stopped thousands of others from succeeding who weren’t treated equally and that it shouldn’t stop them.  That they should strive for expect and believe that living the Love Unity Equality culture is the answer.  That they will inspire their generation and future generations to think and live as if the color of someones skin is no more relevant than the color of their hair or their eyes in regards to how we treat one another. That we treat everyone equally and with love and that inequality should not be accepted in their life.  Meaning they should take action to report any discrimination or unfair treatment.  As Love Unity Equality grows it will create more and more resources to stop injustices leading to more and more equality but that it starts with how we live and treat others living the culture of Love Unity and Equality.

If you would like your child to become a part of our program please see our contact info below.

If your interested in becoming one of our mentors go to the home page contact us section and tell us why you are the right person and also send us an email to loveunityequality@gmail.com and include your resume copied and pasted no attachments.  If resume unavailable tell us why you are the right person.

Youth Sports & Other Programs

We look to partner with other youth development programs with a large focus on sports.  It has been said that sports is a microcosm of life and the same things that lead to success on the court or the field  are the same things that lead to success in life.  Things like work ethic, attitude, commitment, teamwork, unselfishness, desire, confidence, passion, being coachable,  a leader and loving the game you play and your teammates as the list could go on and on.  Not to mention that sports has played a huge role in this country in breaking down color barriers.  We hope to instill those same qualities in the youth who participate in our programs along with instilling the Love Unity Equality culture as well.  All kids are held to a certain behavioral and academic standards at school, home and on the team, and will be suspended as deemed appropriate until standards are met.

We also have a goal to improve police and African American relations therefore we ask the local police or pal to support us and be as actively involved as possible.  This program we hope creates a close bond between a coach and his players. 

Our goal when starting with younger ages is that our kids will never feel as if they are personally being treated unequally in their day to day life.  

If you would like your child to become a part of our program please see our contact info below.

If your interested in becoming one of our coaches go to the home page contact us section and tell us why you are the right person and also send us an email to info@loveunityequality.com and include your resume copied and pasted no attachments.  If resume unavailable tell us why you are the right person.